Thank you for addressing this issue! My situation arose as I started exploring in the “ugly genius” direction—finding a sense of joy and play in somewhat odd garments—while my partner was not so inclined or inspired. Over time, she has softened on some of her judgments while I have also made some efforts to respect her preferences. I also have gained crucial support from my young (and perhaps more open-minded?) children.
Oh I love that ugly genius was that inspiring to you — AND I love the role of “the child’s eye” in this — kids are not yet mental prisoners like we are cuz all the dumb shit we have been trained to care about makes no sense to them 😉
This has been a thing in my relationship! Partner is a sauce king and I like to think I’ve got some pretty good recipes, too. There were times, in the early days of our relationship, that my jawns would ruin his day. We’ve grown past that now. This was a validating edition of the ‘sletter. Jonah is right, when it comes to critiquing bae’s fit, keep it about the jawn and offer concrete suggestions (color, cut, etc). Emotion and subjective opinion without an open mind are banned from talks on fit!
Ha ha excellent! I’m glad you both made it through… there can be turbulence along the way but if the foundation is strong the rest should sort itself out
Absolutely! In the big scheme of things it turned out to be a minor issue. And, we’re probably both more fly because of those hard/weird style-oriented conversations than we could have been on our own, so it’s all good.
Thank you for addressing this issue! My situation arose as I started exploring in the “ugly genius” direction—finding a sense of joy and play in somewhat odd garments—while my partner was not so inclined or inspired. Over time, she has softened on some of her judgments while I have also made some efforts to respect her preferences. I also have gained crucial support from my young (and perhaps more open-minded?) children.
Oh I love that ugly genius was that inspiring to you — AND I love the role of “the child’s eye” in this — kids are not yet mental prisoners like we are cuz all the dumb shit we have been trained to care about makes no sense to them 😉
This has been a thing in my relationship! Partner is a sauce king and I like to think I’ve got some pretty good recipes, too. There were times, in the early days of our relationship, that my jawns would ruin his day. We’ve grown past that now. This was a validating edition of the ‘sletter. Jonah is right, when it comes to critiquing bae’s fit, keep it about the jawn and offer concrete suggestions (color, cut, etc). Emotion and subjective opinion without an open mind are banned from talks on fit!
Ha ha excellent! I’m glad you both made it through… there can be turbulence along the way but if the foundation is strong the rest should sort itself out
Absolutely! In the big scheme of things it turned out to be a minor issue. And, we’re probably both more fly because of those hard/weird style-oriented conversations than we could have been on our own, so it’s all good.
C.O.A.C.H.E.S is celestial level wisdom. I love it!
Ha ha h*ll yeah 🤝🕊