In college I was the captain of the soccer team and was always needing to mediate team drama. There was this one girl who desperately wanted to be a big dawg on the team -- popular, a starter, in the middle of the huddle etc -- but for a variety of reasons relating to her skill level on the field, general vibe, and let's be honest, her neediness -- she found herself on the outskirts and the recipient of some cattiness. I felt like it was my job as captain to solve this social problem but I couldn't figure out how, so I brought it up to my coach. And anyway long story short, my coach said: a team is like a body. Some people are the legs, someone is the brain, someone is the heart....and someone's got to be the asshole. The asshole is *necessary*. A body *dies* without the asshole. And so it would behoove all of us to 1. be grateful to the asshole for doing their job and keeping the body functional, and 2. Be kind to the asshole. Because there usually comes a day when it's our turn to be the asshole.
While I 100% agree that discussion of a third party’s work per se can be very productive, to me, negativity is negativity and s-t-talking is s-t-talking. The difference is when the discussion veers from the high road of “shop talk” into ad hominem territory. But people are flawed, gossip can be fun, and the line is often very blurry.
Rene Girard talks a ton about this! All of human history has involved some form of scapegoating, which on some level is bad, as you say, but on another level is also, as a result of its ubiquity, responsible for all of our achievements to date, including culture, many religions, etc and it may be necessary for us to coexist as social animals at all.
Haters can succeed massively. Whether them hating helps or hurts their work can't be separated and analyzed as a factor in their success. Haters hate. Evan Kinori makes uncomfortable clothes.
In college I was the captain of the soccer team and was always needing to mediate team drama. There was this one girl who desperately wanted to be a big dawg on the team -- popular, a starter, in the middle of the huddle etc -- but for a variety of reasons relating to her skill level on the field, general vibe, and let's be honest, her neediness -- she found herself on the outskirts and the recipient of some cattiness. I felt like it was my job as captain to solve this social problem but I couldn't figure out how, so I brought it up to my coach. And anyway long story short, my coach said: a team is like a body. Some people are the legs, someone is the brain, someone is the heart....and someone's got to be the asshole. The asshole is *necessary*. A body *dies* without the asshole. And so it would behoove all of us to 1. be grateful to the asshole for doing their job and keeping the body functional, and 2. Be kind to the asshole. Because there usually comes a day when it's our turn to be the asshole.
damn, something to that
When will you be starting the BBSP vertical on Team Building & Project Management?
Probably some good money in that
You could share some great intel on the latest developments in corporate fleece vests.
Loved this story about One direction 🙏
While I 100% agree that discussion of a third party’s work per se can be very productive, to me, negativity is negativity and s-t-talking is s-t-talking. The difference is when the discussion veers from the high road of “shop talk” into ad hominem territory. But people are flawed, gossip can be fun, and the line is often very blurry.
Rene Girard talks a ton about this! All of human history has involved some form of scapegoating, which on some level is bad, as you say, but on another level is also, as a result of its ubiquity, responsible for all of our achievements to date, including culture, many religions, etc and it may be necessary for us to coexist as social animals at all.
fascinating ... love doing inadvertent Spyrardian anthropology
we need more critics and more hating !!
This piece has it it all - indie rock folklore, team building, spinning out on your negativity but you keep putting the peddle to metal any way.
no one said indie though ; )
Ok definitely Imagination Daragons
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Supremely funny story about the band as it's almost exactly an ep of Metalocalypse, and one of their best ones at that
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Haters can succeed massively. Whether them hating helps or hurts their work can't be separated and analyzed as a factor in their success. Haters hate. Evan Kinori makes uncomfortable clothes.